Thanks for the insights into our quandary about how to handle the news of a recent premature birth. My husband ended up going to lunch with the father. He brought a gift card for a local restaurant... a chain that is a little further away from the hospital but there really isn't that much in the area of this hospital even though it is fairly large and in the 'Burbs.
They ended up going up to the hospital after lunch so he got to experience the NICU and see the baby. Apparently the mom is still unable to drive and hasn't been at the hospital much so the offer has been extended for rides to/from the hospital during the day if she would like since my work schedule affords more flexibility than most.
We really appreciated the responses to the Barren advice post and the post here. Thanks again.